Friday, December 12, 2008
The greatest gift you can give others is your full presence. If you want to really succeed, show up. You have been taught that what you do is your contribution to life, while your deeper gift is how you do it. If you are going to do something invest your full self. If you can't be fully there, don't be there at all. (How ripped off do you feel when you are on the telephone saying something important to someone, and you hear them doing dishes, punching keys on their computer, or flushing the toilet?). When you act with resistance, resentment or distraction, you poison your endeavor and relationship. (Paramahansa Yogananda noted, "Manners without sincerity are like a beautiful but dead lady.") If you find yourself doing something halfheartedly, stop and decide if you really want to do this, then either dive in or dive out.
p. 107, Alan H. Cohen, "Why Your Life Sucks"
That being said, there's more to be said; about tact, diplomacy, sensitivity and respect. After all, this isn't the USMC. I stand corrected.